Finding the right IVF
doctor can make a world of a difference to your IVF
treatment, which is why spending time, money and energy
hunting for the best IVF doctor in the best IVF clinic
is vitally important for you. Unfortunately, most IVF
patients don’t know how to go about looking for
the best IVF doctor, and often end up getting suboptimal
treatment, because they are not taking treatment in
a good IVF clinic.
Who is the best IVF doctor ? For every patient, their
idea of the right IVF doctor will be different, which
is why you need to invest time and energy in this pursuit.
You need to have a plan of how to go about finding the
right IVF doctor for yourself. Step number one is to
start by preparing a short-list of possible candidates.
You can phone or email the IVF doctors on your list.
“ Telephone shopping" can provide you with
a lot of useful information about an individual doctor’s
practice, including details of clinic timings, fees,
qualifications, hospital attachments, special interests.
After all, if you are willing to research which travel
agent will give you the best deal on a holiday trip,
then isn't it worthwhile researching into whose hands
you are going to put your life in? You can learn a good
deal about the doctor and his practice, even before
you actually meet him, by merely telephoning and asking
the right questions.
While it is true that many mediocre doctors flaunt
posh clinics, the setting in which the doctor functions
can reveal a lot about him. Is the clinic located in
a decent building? Is public access easy? Has the doctor
bothered to provide the basic amenities you need (e.g.,
drinking water, comfortable seating)? What kind of reading
material is kept in the waiting area? (Old and torn
magazines should qualify as a negative mark. Patient
educational literature and current issues of health
magazines indicate that the doctor respects your waiting
time and wants to use it to educate you). Are the office
staff members helpful? How do they answer the telephone?
How do they treat other patients? You can learn a lot
about a doctor and his practice from the personality
of his employees: remember that efficient, caring physicians
tend to hire competent, friendly personnel!
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While selecting a suitable doctor can be difficult,
try to find answers to the following questions.
- Credentials - training and qualifications.
- Skill and experience.
- Accessibility (locations; clinic timings).
- Affordability (fees).
- Professionalism.
- Does he prepare for your appointment?
- Explain records and test results?
- Keeps appointments and values your time?
- Manage an efficient clinic?
- Review your status and progress periodically?
- Personality and style.
- Does he talk to you? Take time to listen to what
you have to say?
- Does he show empathy and compassion?
A good infertility doctor will
usually:
involve both husband and wife in consultations,
discussions and planning.
offer recommendations and choices. Since there are no
"right" answers, he should allow you to choose
your own course of action..
tailor testing and treatment to your emotional needs and
budget.
have time to answer questions and offer support.
chalk out a treatment plan for you, with a discussion
of rationale, alternatives, costs, time limits and expected
success rates.
Many patients are still not very sophisticated when it
comes to selecting their doctor. Most Indians follow a
herd mentality, and believe that a busy doctor must be
the best – after all, if so many patients go to
him, he must be good. However, remember that you need
to be more critical when making such a crucial decision
– after all, you have to trust that your doctor's
skills will provide you with the best treatment for your
infertility. There is little point in going to a doctor
who is so busy that he has no time to talk to you, or
who cannot even remember your name!
Most gynecologists can provide basic infertility workup
and testing - but you may prefer to look for a specialised
infertility clinic which will provide all the services
you need under one roof, especially if you have a complex
problem. Many gynecologists are not really geared up
to providing the care which an infertile couple needs,
and it’s not much fun sitting in a room with pregnant
women who have come for their obstetric care, if you
are infertile.
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The risks of going to a general
gynecologist for treatment are:
1. They may not have the
expertise or specialised knowledge to treat your problem,
since they may not be aware of recent advances in this
field.
2. They may not have access
to the specialised tools needed to treat you, with the
result that you may have to run around from the doctor
to the lab to the ultrasound clinic for your treatment.
3. They may not have a
special interest in treating infertility, so that you
may end up getting "second class" treatment.
4. A common mistake many
gynecologists make is that they keep on repeating the
same treatment again and again – wasting valuable
time and money in the process.
We often find that by the time patients come to us,
they are so fed up and frustrated, since they have wasted
so much time and money on repeating ineffective treatments,
that they have lost confidence in doctors – and
in themselves as well! Don’t let this happen to
you! While going to an infertility specialist can help
you to ensure you are on the right track, this does
entail the risk of "overtreatment" as well.
Unfortunately, many infertility clinics are happy to
do IVF for all infertile patients who come to them,
whether or not they really need this!
Getting a second opinion
Get a second opinion - this can never hurt and
is always helpful. If you find two experts saying the
same thing then you know you are on the right track!
If, on the other hand, they disagree, don't get upset
- there are few black and white areas in infertility,
and doctors often have different ways of treating a
particular problem. Ask questions of both of them and
then choose the method which appeals to you - it's finally
your decision!
What if you don't understand what the doctor is saying
and are getting confused? This is not your fault. If
you do not understand anything the doctor says - ask
questions! If you still do not understand the fault
is his - he is not explaining in terms which you can
follow. Find another doctor!
Remember that you need to ask questions to get answers
- your doctor cannot read your mind! But also remember
that your doctor does not have all the answers - after
all, medicine is still an imperfect science, and your
doctor is not a fortune-teller. If he does not know
the answer, he should tell you this as well.
How do we do a consultation in our practice? We first
ask the couple why they think they have not been able
to conceive, and how they expect us to be able to help
them. The answers give us a good idea of how much the
couple understands about their problem. It’s often
heartbreaking when we see couples who have been through
3 IVF cycles, and don’t even know how many eggs
they grew or how many embryos were transferred each
time – or even why the IVF was done in the first
place. During a consultation, we first explain, using
models, how babies are made. We then review the medical
records, and explain to the patient what we feel their
medical problem is. We then explain to them what the
treatment options are, and tell them to think about
these and then make up their mind. In our clinic, we
do not charge for a repeat consultation, in order to
encourage patients to ask questions, and to give them
time to make up their own mind. We take pride in the
fact that our patients have a good understanding of
their medical problem, and realistic expectations of
how we can help them!
Remember that the purpose of a consultation is to get
information. If you do your homework before going, you
will be able to make better use of your doctor’s
time, since you can focus on the issues which are important
to you. You then need to go home and process this information,
so you can decide what to do. It’s very difficult
to think straight when you are sitting in front of the
doctor, so it’s usually a good idea to give yourself
enough time to apply your mind and assimilate the information,
before making a decision. There is usually no urgency,
since infertility treatment is never an emergency. Beware
of a doctor who wants you to decide on the spot –
it’s hard to do so under pressure, and you may
end up making a decision in haste, which you may then
repent at leisure.
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As an infertile patient, you
are very liable to being exploited and quacks in this
field abound! Suspect your doctor's credentials when:
1. He promises too
much.
2. He says things like
- "that's my secret."
3. He doesn't explain
clearly what he is doing during treatment.
4. He advises too many
tests and surgical procedures repeatedly.
When to Change Doctors
Because infertility is often a long drawn-out
process, anger is a natural result - and often this
is transferred to your doctor. However, constantly changing
doctors or doctor-shopping can be counterproductive!
If the quality of care you are receiving is good, be
cautious about changing doctors - a doctor who knows
you and your infertility problem well can be of significant
help to you.
Changing doctors is never easy,
because, over a period of time you do build up a personal
relationship with your doctor. However, you should consider
changing doctors if you feel that :
- The doctor is incompetent (i.e., he has ignored
obvious symptoms, missed a diagnosis, prescribed the
wrong drug, or can't get to the bottom of your problem);
- The doctor does not communicate with you effectively
(i.e., his explanations are not in lay person's language
or no time is given to you to ask questions and bring
up related problems);
- The doctor does not pay attention to your needs
and concerns;
- You have lost confidence in the doctor's skill
and ability.
- You find the doctor is too inconsiderate (i.e.,
he makes you wait a long time for an appointment,
he fails to return your phone calls, he does not provide
clinic time during evening or weekend hours); and
- Your doctor is too expensive.
A common problem patients face is that when they go to
a new doctor, he insists on repeating all the tests all
over again. While this can be frustrating and expensive,
it can be helpful as well, because it allows the doctor
to reassess your problem with a fresh perspective. Please
ask your doctor to explain why he needs to repeat the
tests, and how this will help in your treatment. If tests
have already been done, but are more than a year old,
or if they have been done from an unreliable lab, you
may need to repeat some of these again.
It is all too common to find that infertility clinics
do not provide complete medical treatment details to
their patients. They often do this in order to make
sure that the patient remains with them, and does not
go to another doctor. This is very unfair – remember
that your medical records are your property, and you
are entitled to a copy of them.
You may find that your new doctor criticises the treatment
your previous doctor provided. Remember that doctors
do have big egos, and they are often intensely competitive
and critical of each other. This can upset you, because
you may start feeling that you were given substandard
medical care. As long as you have a clear understanding
of what was done to you and why, you should ignore this
criticism - don’t let it disturb you. Anyone can
be wise with hindsight – and do remember that
all doctors will try to do their best to help you to
get pregnant!
Many doctors will repeat exactly the same treatment
the previous doctor has administered – often because
they have nothing better to offer! However, remember
that even though you have changed your doctor, you have
remained the same – and the purpose of changing
doctors should be to allow you to progress further with
your treatment.
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Choosing an Infertility Clinic
Many couples ask us whether they should travel
abroad for treatment. Fortunately, the quality of medical
care available in leading IVF clinics in India today
is easily on par with the world’s best clinics,
since they use exactly the same equipment, and the same
techniques. In fact, IVF treatment in India is an excellent
bargain by international standards, since you are getting
exactly the same quality of treatment you would get
anywhere else in the world – at a fraction of
the cost. This is why so many IVF clinics in India routinely
treat infertile couples from overseas.
How does the quality of care in the smaller towns in
India compare with that available in the metropolises?
Do you always have to travel to a clinic in a large
city for treatment? Since there are no standards or
regulations (IVF clinics in India today do not need
to meet any quality control criteria) you need to be
an educated shopper! While the quality of care can be
quite good in smaller towns, most of the reputed clinics
are in the larger cities. These bigger programmes are
usually better, because they are busier, and more experienced,
and busy IVF programmes (which perform more than 150
treatment cycles per year) have been shown to have higher
pregnancy rates. However, very busy clinics may not
be able to provide you with the personalized care you
need, and some can be quite uncaring, so that they make
you feel that you are just a cog in a machine. For simpler
treatment such as IUI, it is best to look for a good
clinic in your own town. However, for advanced treatments,
you may be better off going to an established clinic.
While travelling can add to your stress and expense,
many infertile couples actually prefer not having to
take treatment in the city which they live, as they
would like to protect their privacy.
The Need for Active Participation
Remember, you are in charge of your own medical care!
Medicine, as both a science and art, often requires
choices and there are no "right" answers -
you need to make your own decisions. After all, it's
your body and your life!
You have a vital interest in treatment decisions and
outcomes but lack the medical knowledge and skill to
decide alone. The concept of a team - the medical caregivers
( doctors, nurses, specialists) and you (the couple),
working together, allows each to contribute to a successful
outcome and offers you a sense of control over your
infertility care.
Your role on the medical team is multifaceted - you
need to wear many hats when you are an infertile patient!
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Emotional Care
When confronted by infertility, you need more
than just medical care – and a good doctor will
help to provide you with emotional support as well.
Unfortunately, doctors often end up amplifying the stress
infertile patients find themselves having to cope with.
Many doctors make patients long hours, for no good reason;
and others are often insensitive to their emotional
needs. Others may be quite thoughtless, and instead
of trying to provide special attention to the needs
of infertile couples, make them wait with pregnant mothers
in the clinic. A good clinic, on the other hand, can
help to alleviate your stress, by recognizing it; teaching
patients that this is normal; and showing them how to
cope with it. A good doctor will be able to establish
a relationship with the couple, based on understanding
and respect, to help them maintain and rebuild their
self-esteem.
Questions to Ask Your Doctor
- Do you have experience in fertility treatment? When
do you consult with an infertility specialist?
- Will you refer me to an obstetrician when I get
pregnant or will you deliver the baby?
- Will you send me to any other physicians or laboratories
for treatments or tests?
- Will you treat my spouse? If not, who will?
- Do you arrange for adoptions?
- Do you document surgeries with photographs or videotapes
so I can see your findings for myself or provide them
to other doctors?
- Which hospital(s) do you use?
Questions to ask about Tests, Surgery
and Treatments
- What kind of procedure is it?
- What will the procedure tell you?
- What results do you expect?
- How long will it take?
- What will it cost? Does insurance cover it?
- Will it hurt? How will it make me feel afterward?
- Can you do it in your office? As a hospital outpatient?
- Will I be incapacitated? For how long? Will I miss
work?
- Will my spouse be involved? How? Will he/she miss
work?
- Will it interfere with our sex life? How?
Questions to ask about Medications
- How long will I take it?
- What will it cost? Does insurance cover it?
- Will it hurt or have side effects?
- Do I take it at home or at your office?
Remember that just finding a good IVF doctor is not
enough. For an infertile couple, the doctor-patient relationship
is the ultimate one-to-one relationship, in which you
confide fully in your doctor and trust him to help you
to conceive. You need to form a partnership with your
IVF doctor, so that you can make the most of his skills
and abilities.
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