FAQs on Infertility
from Malpani Infertility Clinic.
Q. My husband and I have an active sex life,
we are both healthy, and my periods are regular. However,
we have still not conceived ! Please help !
A. You need to remember that it's not possible to determine
the reason for your infertility until you undergo tests
to find out if your husband's sperm count is normal;
if your fallopian tubes and uterus are normal; and if
you are producing eggs. Only after undergoing these
tests will your doctor be able to tell you why you are
not conceiving. While testing does cause considerable
anxiety, it's far better to intelligently identify the
problem so that we can look for the best solution.
Q. How can I determine my "fertile"
period ?
A. Your fertile period is the time during which having
sex could lead to a pregnancy. This is the 4-6 days
prior to ovulation ( release of a mature egg from the
ovary). Women normally ovulate 14 days prior to the
date of the next menstrual period. If you are mathematically
challenged, you can use this free
online ovulation calendar .
Q. My gynecologist has done an internal examination
and said I am normal. Do I still need to get tests done
to determine why I am not conceiving ?
A. A routine gynecological examination does not provide
information about possible problems which can cause
infertility, such as blocked fallopian tubes or ovulatory
disorders. You need a systematic infertility workup.
Q. Do painful periods cause infertility ?
A. Painful periods do not affect fertility. In fact,
for most patients, regular painful periods usually signal
ovulatory cycles. However, progressively worsening pain
during periods (especially when this is accompanied
by pain during sex) may mean you have endometriosis.
Q. My periods come only once every 6 weeks.
Could this be a reason for my infertility ?
A. As long as the periods are regular, this means ovulation
is occurring. Some normal women have menstrual cycle
lengths of as long as 40 days. Of course, since they
have fewer cycles every year, the number of times they
are "fertile" in a year is decreased. Also,
they need to monitor their fertile period more closely,
since this is delayed (as compared to women with a 30
day cycle).
Q. My husband's blood group is B positive and
I am A negative. Could this blood group "incompatibility"
be a reason for our infertility ?
A. There is no relation between blood groups and fertility.
Q. After having sex, most of the semen leaks
out of my vagin. How can we prevent this ? Should we
change our sexual technique ? Could this be a reason
for our infertility ?
A. Loss of seminal fluid after intercourse is perfectly
normal, and most women notice some discharge immediately
after sex. Many infertile couples imagine that this
is the cause of their problem. If your husband ejaculates
inside you, then you can be sure that no matter how
much semen leaks out afterwards, enough sperm will reach
the cervical mucus. This leakage of semen ( which is
called effluvium seminis) is not a cause of infertility.
In fact, this leakage is a good sign - it means your
husband is depositing his semen normally in your vagina.
Of course, you cannot see what goes in - you can only
see what leaks out - but the fact that some is leaking
out means enough is going in!
Q. My colleagues at work tell me that if we
"work" hard at getting pregnant, and want
it enough, we definitely will ! In fact, my mother in
law is even suggesting that the fact that I am not conceiving
means that subconsciously I do not wish to have a baby
( because it may interfere with my career) and that
this psychological barrier is the reason for our infertility.
A. Unlike many other parts of your lives, infertility
may be beyond your control. Don't blame yourself if
you are not getting pregnant - it's a medical problem
which often needs appropriate medical treatment. The
attitudes you are encountering are often born out of
ignorance - and are a kind of "victim-blaming"
- ignore them !
Q. My grandmother says that if I just pray
and have faith, I will definitely conceive. How far
is this true ?
A. Believing in god can help you to maintain a positive
outlook - but sheer will and blind faith won't overcome
a physical problem like blocked tubes or absent sperms.
Q. My husband refuses to get his semen tested.
He says the fact that it is thick and voluminous means
it must be normal.
A. Semen consists mainly of seminal fluid, secreted
by the seminal vesicles and the prostate. The volume
and consistency of the semen is not related to its fertility
potential, which depends upon the sperm count. This
can only be assessed by microscopic examination.
Q. My sister conceived only after 6 years of
marriage. Does this mean I will also have difficulty
conceiving ?
A. If your mother, grandmother or sister has had difficulty
becoming pregnant, this does not necessarily mean you
will have the same problem! Most infertility problems
are not hereditary, and you need a complete evaluation.
Q. My doctor just did a physical examination
for me, and he feels that the reason for my infertility
is that my uterus is tipped backwards, and this prevents
the sperm from swimming into the uterus. He is advising
I have surgery to correct this problem. Should I go
ahead ?
A. About one in five women will have a retroverted uterus.
If the uterus is freely mobile, this is normal, and
is not a cause of infertility. This is not an indication
for surgery!
Q. My husband says we should be having intercourse
every day to achieve pregnancy. Is this true ?
A. Sperm remain alive and active in woman's cervical
mucus for 48-72 hours following sexual intercourse;
therefore, it isn't necessary to plan your lovemaking
on a rigid schedule.
Q. My friends say I should have sex exactly
on the day I ovulate to get pregnant. How can I do this
?
A. Although having sexual intercourse near the time
of ovulation is important, no single day is critical.
So, don't be concerned if intercourse is not possible
or practical on the day of ovulation.
Q. My sister in law is advising me to keep
a pillow under my hips during and after intercourse
. Will this increase my chances of conceiving ?
A. Sperm are already swimming in cervical mucus as sexual
intercourse is completed and will continue to travel
up the cervix to the fallopian tube for the next 48
to 72 hours. The position of the hips really doesn't
matter.
Q. My mother feels I am too tense, and that
if I just relax, I'll get pregnant.
A. If pregnancy has not occurred after a year, chances
are there is a medical condition causing infertility.
There is no evidence that stress causes infertility.
Remember, all infertile patients are under stress -
it's not the stress which causes infertiliity, it's
the infertility which causes the stress!
Q. I just had a HSG ( X-ray of the uterus and
tubes) done, and this shows my tubes are blocked. I've
never had symptoms of a pelvic infection, so how could
my tubes get blocked ?
A. Many pelvic infections have no symptoms at all, but
can cause damage, sometimes irreversibly, to the tubes.
Q. My doctor has advised me to take fertility
drugs . I don't want to take them because if I am scared
that if I do, then I'll have a multiple births.
A. Fact: Although fertility drugs do increase the chance
of having a multiple pregnancy (because they stimulate
the ovaries to produce several eggs), the majority of
women taking them have singleton births.
Q. My husband's sperm count varies every time
we test it ! How do we determine what the "real"
sperm count is ?
A. Even a normal ( fertile ) man's sperm count can vary
considerably from week to week. Sperm count and motility
can be affected by many factors, including time between
ejaculations, illness, and medications. There are other
factors which affect the sperm count as well, all of
which we do not understand.
Q. I have no problems having sex. Since I am
virile, my sperm count must be normal.
A. There is no correlation between male fertility and
virility. Men with totally normal sex drives may have
no sperms at all.
Q. All my tests are normal, and yet I can't get
pregnant. My doctor says my infertility is "unexplained"
! What does this mean ? The very fact that I cannot
conceive means there must be something wrong !
A. Yes, you are right. Unexplained infertility is
simply a confession of our ignorance, and means that our
technology is not good enough to be able to identify the
problem. For example, a semen analysis can show that
your sperm count is normal. However, it tells us nothing
about the functional competence of the sperm - whether
they are able to fertilise the egg or not ! In any case,
I feel the question should NOT be "Why am I not getting
pregnant ? " Rather, it should be - What can I do in
order to get pregnant ?" After all, no one cares about
problems - we only care about results - about having a
baby ! Fortunately, our technology for solving problems
( by bypassing them in the IVF lab !) is much better
than our technology for identifying them - and perhaps
this is just as well !T his means that rather than waste
time trying to pinpoint the problem, we can just bypass
it altogether !
Q. Even though I have health insurance, my
insurance policy will not cover infertility treatment !
Isn't this
unfair ?
A. Yes, it is.
However, the situation will not change until you ( and
other infertile patients ) do something about it ! After
all, an insurance company is a profit-making business
enterprise, and it's in their best interests to exclude
as many diseases as they can, as their only focus is
their bottom-line ! The good news is that patients can
lobby to get this to change. This can be a slow process,
and you need to fight for your rights ! This has been
done successfully by infertility support groups in some
States in the US ( where it is now compulsory for
insurance companies to cover IVF treatment). If
you work in a large corporate, you can put pressure on
your HRD department, and request them to insist
that their insurance policy provider covers IVF
treatment. You can learn how to write an
Advocacy Letter here.
Q. My semen analysis report shows I have no
sperm in the semen ( azoospermia ). Is this because
I used to masturbate excessively as a boy ?
A. Masturbation is a normal activity which most boys
and men indulge in. It does not affect the sperm count.
You cannot "run" out of sperms, because these
are constantly being produced in the testes.
Q. My wife is frigid and does not enjoy having
sex. Could this be the reason for her infertility?
A. There is no connection between sexual pleasure and
fertility. Don't forget that even a woman who gets raped
can get pregnant! And don't forget that the commonest
reason women do not enjoy sex is because their husbands
are unskilled lovers ! Maybe you should improve your
sexual technique, and spend more time in foreplay and
in pleasuring your wife.
Q. How long do I need to be in India if I need
to come to your clinic for IVF treatment ?
A. You would need to spend about 20 days in India, starting
from Day 1 of your cycle. You need to come to the
clinic for only 4- 7 visits. From Day 4 - Day 9, you can
even visit the Taj or Ajanta-Ellora; or go to Kerala
for an ayurvedic massage to de-stress yourself. Go ahead
and explore India - it's a completely different
world ! This means you can have an incredible holiday
as well. Check out
www.incredibleindia.org for more ideas. If your local doctor agrees, you can start your
meds in your hometown and come directly on Day 10, which
means you would have to spend only about 10 days in
Bombay. Hotel rooms cost about US $ 50 per night in
India.
Q. Do you offer a shared-risk program ?
A. Yes, we do. You can read about our "money-back"
option here.
Q. Can I talk to any of your patients ?
A. Yes, you can. Some of our patients have kindly agreed
to act as "email buddies" and will be happy
to talk to you by email. You can read their stories
and contact them through
our website page here.
Q. Where were you trained ?
A. We completed our MD in Obstetrics and Gynecology
from India's premier medical college, KEM Hospital in
Bombay University. We are extremely familiar with the
US medical system, because we have trained at Johns
Hopkins Medical School and Harvard Medical School. We
have received advanced training in IVF at
King's College Hospital, London; and the University
of California at San Francisco.
Q. Can you help with travel, tickets and hotel
accommodation ?
A. Many travel agents in India now have their
own websites, and they will be happy to help you out.
You can find a list at
http://www.indiatourism.com/travelagents/mumbai-travel-agents.html.
Shop around for the best deal ! You can also select a
hotel close to the clinic at
www.drmalpani.com/hotels.htm !
Q. Do I have to get any tests/blood work done
by my gynecologist before we start the procedure?
A. We need the results of the following simple medical
tests before starting an IVF cycle.
1. semen analysis for your husband
2. blood tests for you for the following reproductive
hormones - FSH ( follicle-stimulating hormone),LH (
luteinising hormone),PRL ( prolactin) and TSH ( thyroid
stimulating hormone) on Day 3 of your cycle, ( to check
the quality of your eggs);
3. a HSG ( hysterosalpingogram, X-ray of the uterus
and tubes) on Day 8 of your cycle ( to confirm your
uterine cavity is normal);
4. a vaginal ultrasound scan on Day 10-13 of your cycle,
to confirm your uterus is normal.
If the tests have been done in the past one year, there
is no need to repeat them. If there is a problem, then
we can treat it prior to starting IVF !
Q. Can I bring the medications from US, if my
insurance provider covers the costs for it?
A. Yes.
Q. Could you recommend a place for us to stay
that is close to your clinic?
A. There is a list of hotels at www.drmalpani.com/hotels.htm
Q. How frequently should we visit your clinic
during the IVF treatment cycle ?
A. About 7 visits - on Day 1,3,10,12,14,16 and 18
Q. How much does it cost for freezing the embryos
?
A. US $ 1500 . This includes storage for 1 year
Q. If a cycle of IVF fails, what should be
the time gap that needs to be given before we try again
?
A. You can cycle back to back if you so desire.
Q. If I decide to stay there until we confirm
the pregnancy with an ultrasound, Is it safe for me
to fly back after that during my first trimester?
A. Yes, this is fine too.
Do you need more information on infertility ? Our book,
Getting
Pregnant - A Guide for the Infertile Couple, is
a very valuable resource - and the full book is available
online, free of charge!
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