When couples first plan to start families, they hardly ever imagine that they will find it a challenge to get pregnant. Dealing with infertility can be extremely taxing-emotionally and physically too. When couples find they are unable to get pregnant, they first consult their family doctors, who in most case, recommends that they consult an IVF specialist. The battery of tests that follow can be pretty nerve wracking, even for the strongest of couples.
Here are a few simple tips to help you handle this challenging phase:
- Recognize that you have a problem: Many couples often delay going to a doctor; they feel that their inability to conceive is only temporary and that they will eventually get over it. It’s important to acknowledge that the problem exists in the first place; that’s the only way you will be able to deal with it well.
- Accept your grief: Raising a family is definitely a challenge. However, many people find it challenging just to get their family started. Most of us never even imagine that starting a family can be so complex; we just think that the difficult part comes later, after the babies are born. It is very normal to feel a sense of loss as this is something that you’ve never expected. Accepting your emotions can help you move forward. Keep in mind that all is not lost, there is a lot of hope and you may still be able to have your own family, with the help of medical science.
- Don't blame yourself: This may seem tempting, but it won’t do you any good. You didn’t ask to be infertile and it isn’t your fault. Getting caught in such negative patterns of thought can only worsen the problem. Instead, simply accept what has happened and the move forward with a positive mind frame. The recurring thought in your head should be- “Now What?”
- Be there for your partner: Regardless of which of you has been diagnosed infertile, if you haven’t been able to get pregnant, it is a loss for the both of you. Acknowledge the pain of your partner and understand that your partner is feeling this loss too. It’s important to work as a team because; the treatment requires both of you to participate. Be there for each other and lend each other support and strength.
- Educate yourself: Medical science has made a number of advances, and it’s much easier to deal with the infertility now, compared to what it was a few years ago. You should be well versed with everything that is happening. So read a lot and find out all you can, about different treatments and all their aspects. This way, you will be able to make informed choices and have realistic expectations of treatments.
Summary: When getting pregnant becomes a challenge, it can be very tempting to assume there is no hope. However, its possible to be optimistic and move forward with treatments that can help turn the situation around.