Premature ejaculation , sexual self-esteem and infertility
Premature ejaculation is the commonest male sexual problem. It is very distressing , because it makes the man feel inadequate and inferior. Most infertile men have poor sexual self-esteem. As it is , they feel inadequate because they cannot get their wife pregnant. On top of this, if they cannot perform in the bedroom, this makes a bad situation even worse.
Premature ejaculation causes a lot of distress. Most men use blue films as their yardstick for assessing their personal sexual performance, and they feel that they should be able to "last" as long as their heroes do in porno movies. When they cannot do this , they feel that they are inferior and inadequate. Remember that these movies use a lot of editing and trick photography - and are definitely not the "norm: !
In fact, there is an evolutionary advantage to being a premature ejaculator and this seems to be hard-wired in our genes ! in the past , men who could have sex quickly could get lots of women pregnant quickly, and spread their genes far and wide !
This is primarily a psychological problem ; and in many men is the result of behaviour which is learned as a teenager. When you are masturbating in the privacy of the bathroom , you don’t want to be caught by your parents, so you try to ejaculate as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, this behavior is hard to unlearn when you grow up !
The good news is that premature ejaculation will not affect your fertility ! As long as the sperm are being ejaculated inside the vagina, how quickly you discharge makes no physiological difference at all.
Also, while this is a hard problem to "cure", there are many simple solutions which can help. For one, try having sex a second time after your ejaculate. The second ejaculation is usually delayed and the erection will last longer
You can also change your sexual technique and masturbate your wife first, so she gets sexual release. This will take the pressure to perform off you !
You can also use a local anesthetic jelly locally ( such as Xylocaine) to prolong the time to ejaculation. This is effective, but takes the fun away !
You can also learn techniques such as the Stop-Start or Squeeze technique to delay ejaculation
Some men find that taking the SSRi group of antidepressants also helps
There are also lots of quacks who sell lots of remedies ( online and in real life as well) to "treat” premature ejaculation. They take advantage of a man’s ignorance and inferiority complex – please beware !
While the truth is that treating the premature ejaculation can take time, if your primary focus is having a baby, this can be easy to achieve, if your sperm count is normal. One treatment option is self-insemination. You can read more about this at www.drmalpani.com/selfinsemination.htm. You can buy the kit at www.drmalpani.com/self-insemination-kit-india.htm
