When couples first decide to start families, hardly anyone ever imagines that they will find themselves in a situation where they cannot get pregnant. Going through this phase of dealing with their infertility, is indeed one of the most emotional and stressful periods for all couples.
When they first find out they are having difficulty getting pregnant, most couples reach out to their family doctors, who may recommend seeing a specialist. Going through a battery of tests to find out what the problem is exacts a toll on even the strongest of couples.
Here are some simple tips to help you handle this tough time.
- Recognize that you have a problem: A lot of couples often delay going to a doctor, thinking that their inability to conceive is just temporary and that they will get over it. Though this is one of the most difficult challenges you may ever face, acknowledging the problem is the first step towards dealing with it.
- Accept your grief: Raising a family is a challenge, but often, getting a family started may be a challenge too. Most of us never imagine that starting a family could be so complex, thinking that the difficult part comes later, when the babies are born. It is normal to feel a sense of loss because this is something that you never expected. Accepting your emotions can help you move forward. Remember, all is not lost, there is still a lot of hope and you may still be able to have your own family, with the help of medical science.
- Don't blame yourself: as tempting as it may be. It will not do you any good. You did not ask to be infertile and therefore it is not your fault. Getting caught in such negative patterns of thought can only make your problem worse. Instead, accept what has happened and move to the next step. 'Now what?' should be the recurring thought in your head.
- Be there for your partner: No matter if either or both of you are diagnosed infertile. If you have difficulty getting pregnant, it is a loss for the both of you. Acknowledge the pain of your partner and understand that your partner is feeling this loss too. Work as a team because the treatment would require both of you to participate. Be there for each other and lend each other your strength.
- Educate yourself: Medical science has made a lot of advances, and it is much easier to deal with infertility now, than it was a few years back. You should be well versed with everything that is happening. So read a lot and find out all you can, about different treatments and all their aspects. This way, you will be able to make informed choices and have realistic expectations of treatments.