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It’s natural for human beings to worry, and infertility is one experience that lends itself very easily to it. Regardless of how much we counsel our patients, they do tend to worry- some of them, a little bit, while others, quite a lot.  It’s natural for them to do so, simply because there are just too many aspects of infertility which can cause them to ask questions like:

  • Will the treatment work for me?
  • Will I be able to afford it?
  • Are the injections going to hurt?
  • Will I be able to survive the 2WW?
  • Will my husband/partner be supportive and understand what I’m going through?
  • Are there any side-effects to IVF?
  • And of course the biggie- What if this doesn’t work for me at all?

The Worry Factor

Worry can be helpful, because it ensures that patients are careful and alert.  This ensures that their search for the right solution is wide and deep , and ensures they don’t overlook anything. This also allows them to prepare for the unexpected; and reduces the risk of errors, because there are watchful.

It’s okay to worry only up until a certain extent. In some ways, it can keep you grounded and helps you maintain realistic expectations of your IVF treatment- in this sense; worry can be constructive. Contrastingly, we also see some patients who worry so much and dwell only on negative outcomes.

Common Questions

Some patients ask me questions like:

  • Why is this happening to me?
  • Am I going to be the only one who will never have a baby?
  • If we find that there are no follicles in this cycles, will IVF ever work for me at all?

There are a number of other questions that crop up in the minds of patients. But IVF can sometimes be a long drawn out process and if you are continuously worrying almost every day, week after week, it’s bound to cause you a lot of distress. As a matter of fact, it can also impair your ability to function normally in your daily life. If this is happening with you, it’s important you don’t ignore it.

The Right Perspective

Here are a few ways in which you can reduce the impact of negative thoughts and worry:

  • Mind-Body Techniques- We do encourage our patients to practice mindfulness, meditation, deep-breathing techniques and yoga as well as guided imagery. These techniques help you calm your frayed nerves and you are able to think  more logically and  clearly
  • Prioritize self-care: It’s no secret that we should always take good care of ourselves; however when you experience a profound stressor such as infertility, remembering the basics can be quite a challenge. You should prioritize eating healthy; and it’s important to play, exercise regularly, drink plenty of water ; get sufficient sleep & connect with your partner meaningfully. This becomes the foundation that allows you some additional emotional energy to manage infertility-related stresses in a better way
  • Therapy-  Though you may not feel you need it, having a confidential place where you feel heard and you can get your feelings out, is very important too.

Worry is a very normal response to infertility, but it’s not normal to let it consume you. Don’t let worry weigh you down on your IVF journey; simply try these techniques and send worry a-packing!!

Need more information? Please send me your medical details by filling in the form at www.drmalpani.com/free-second-opinion so that I can help you stop worrying needlessly!

Authored by : Dr Aniruddha Malpani, MD and reviewed by Dr Anjali Malpani.

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