A lot of infertile couples are very reluctant to do IVF
because they think that it signals the fact that they are failures.
They think of this as a stigma - that because they have
not been able to make a baby in their bedroom, they need assistance from a
doctor in order to get pregnant - something that people do routinely all the
time , without any help at all.
This is why they are emotionally upset when they find that
they require assisted reproductive technology in order to get pregnant.
However, the right way of looking at IVF is to appreciate
the fact that at least they now have treatment options ! IVF creates a safety
net for them, which means we can help them to have a baby , when nature lets
And IVF is really not artificial ! All we are doing is assisting
them , so that what's not happening in their bedroom , we're doing for them in
This is why infertile couples need to change the way they perceive
the problem and re-frame it.
Stop thinking that you have failed at making babies, but
just accept the fact that you need a little bit of assistance to get the
pregnancy kick-started ! Assistance is something which all of us require
throughout our lifetime, all the time, so why be ashamed of this ?
What to find an IVF clinic which respects your time and intelligence ?