Dealing with a negative HCG after a failed IVF cycle can
be extremely hard, both for the patient and the doctor. The natural tendency is
to want to blame someone ! What went wrong ? Who messed up ? It's natural to
want to find someone we can criticize.
The mother-in-law may criticize the patient for not taking
enough bed rest - and the patient may accuse the doctor for not doing a good
This is the time when you need to be logical rather than
Yes, your heart is breaking, and you can't think straight,
and this is why you may end up making a lot of irrational decisions. Under
pressure, you may decide to change the clinic , or use third party options,
such as donor eggs or donor sperm. You are emotionally vulnerable, and your
doctor may misguide you if he is not ethical.
Take a break and give yourself some time to recover !
If the cycle went perfectly and a top quality blastocyst
was transferred smoothly into an optimally prepared endometrium, then the
reality is you just need to be patient and repeat the cycle until it works. Getting frantic
and changing something or doing something new out of desperation can cause
harm, and you may end up reducing your chances in the long run.
What to find an IVF clinic which respects your time and intelligence ?