last 30 years, we have treated lots of patients who have used donor eggs to
have a baby. The vast majority of these patients are extremely happy with their
decision, and many have come back for a second baby, in order to complete their
especially true when they have chosen that decision for themselves, for purely
selfish reasons. They decided , "Yes, this is what we're happy to do,
because I want to experience the joy of pregnancy and the happiness of bringing
up a baby, and I'm not hung up about whose DNA it is."
On the other
hand, there are lots of infertile couples who accept the option of donor eggs
very reluctantly. Their justification is, "Well, what else can I do? This
is the only option available. It's better than adoption, so I'm willing to
compromise. I don't want to keep my husband unhappy," or, "My mother
in law is forcing me to do it."
think it's a good idea to use donor eggs if you think of it as being your second
best option, or if it's one you're not comfortable with, and is being forced
down your throat because of family pressures.
If you do
that, you're not going to be happy, and you're not going to be able to bring up
your child happily either.
You are the
most important decision maker and you need to make a decision you are at
peace with !