One of the
hardest things for IVF patients to do is to make decisions. When their IVF
cycle fails, they are not sure whether they should use their own eggs; or donor
eggs; or donor sperm; or surrogacy. It can be very confusing , and because patients
are not medical experts , they want a doctor to make these decisions for them.
decisions shouldn't be made by doctors , because it's such a personal choice , and
will affect the rest of the patient's life. Yes, it's very easy for the doctor
to tell the patient what to do, but the patient cannot abdicate this
responsibility and allow the doctor to make these decisions.
The job of
the doctor , as a medical professional, is to make sure that he offers all the
choices to the patient , and makes sure that the patient does not make the
wrong choice - a choice based on
incomplete or incorrect medical information . However, the truth is that there
are no right or wrong choices whichever choice the patient makes is the right
choice for her. Patients have to decide for themselves, and the job of the
doctor is to be supportive and offer non-directive counseling, so they can do what
they feel is right for them.
is that it can be very hard to make some of these decisions. Because of the
dramatic advances in reproductive medical technology, there is a dazzling variety
of choices in front of the patient , and this can be very confusing. Patients
are often paralysed because they dont know how to select the right one. They
can use donor eggs, donor sperm, donor embryos , or do surrogacy. Theres a wide
choice of mix and match options, and patients are not sure what to do,
the doctor to make this decision for them, because he is the medical expert, but
often these are very personal preferences, and the doctor is not a mind reader.
That's why it's the patient's responsibility to explore all the options,
understand the medical facts , and then apply their own mind and decide , based
on their personal preferences , what to do.
You have to use
your head and you have to use your heart as well, because you need to live with
the consequence of the decision. The reality is that the decision you make is
right for you. There is no right or wrong decision. Every decision has pros and
cons, you need to weigh this, you need to be systematic about it, and more
importantly you need to have peace of mind that you've thought about it and
made the decision which both your head and heart said was right for you.
and this will help you make better decisions !